Thousands of years ago the Toltec were known throughout Southern Mexico as the " people of knowledge". They were masters (naguals) and students. They believed that everyone had the ability to have personal freedom. Personal freedom brings self love, joy, fulfillment, confidence and your true self. It eliminates self judgement, gossip, fear, pain suffering and misunderstanding. John Lennon said - "Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see..."
To start your journey you have only 4 agreements to follow. It will not be easy, it will take time to change your old habits. The reward will be worth it. The first agreement is the most important.
1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORDS
So what does that mean? The way we communicate is like a double edged sword, it is a powerful tool. Words create beautiful songs, poetry, and build many dreams. Your words can also destroy people and nations if misused. It can create a living hell and make people fear each other. (Example Hitler) Words are many times used to spread toxic ( mean , jealous, anger, hate and envy ) feelings. So first change the way you talk to yourself .
Self love - how much you love yourself is directly linked to the words you use and the way you feel. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid speaking badly of yourself and gossiping about others. Use your words for honesty, love and to nurture relationships.
2. DON"T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Quit Taking It Personally
People take what others say very personal and in fact it is only a reflection of their own pain. We assume that everything is about "me". When you take something someone says personally, we make the assumption that they know our lives. Then we eat their emotional garbage. Taking things personally sets you up for suffering and we are addicted to suffering. People will even help others suffer. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When we are immune to the opinions and actions of others you won't be the victim of suffering.
3. DON"T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
We all make assumptions of what others are doing or thinking. Most of your sadness in life is caused by assumptions and taking things personally. Instead of asking questions we assume. We feel weak or stupid if we have to ask questions. Clear communication avoids conflict and takes away stress and assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with other as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With this one agreement you can transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Doing your best means the best that you can do in that moment. If you do anything less, you will self judge, have regrets, guilt and frustration . Simply do your best. Doing your best you will learn that you can live, love, and be happy. Isn't that what life is all about anyways ?
Happiness is a choice, and so is suffering.
The For Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz